Dear Queenie,

I contracted chlamydia from my husband of 15 years some four months ago.

I suspected something was wrong, because I was constantly going to the doctor for bladder infections. He confessed that he was with someone. Who, I don't know.

I suspect that he is still sleeping around, because we go more than 2 months without sex. He is a healthy man, but maybe he's just not attracted to me anymore.

I was so hurt, plus it could have been AIDS. How could he go and sleep around without using a condom?

He wants me to do as if everything is okay, but at times I feel like packing my bags and moving out. There is no affection in our marriage anymore, but he thinks differently.

We have three daughters and they are the only reason I haven't left.

Queenie, I am seeking your honest opinion. What should I do?—Still in tears

Dear Still in tears,

Apparently you are resigned to the fact that your husband will continue to sleep around, but not to the fact that he has so little regard for your wellbeing that he doesn't bother to practise safe sex.

You will have to decide for yourself whether you are better off with this man or without him, bearing in mind that if you leave, he will still be financially responsible for your children, but you may have trouble collecting from him.

Counselling and legal advice probably will help you in making this decision.