Dear Queenie,

My fiancé and I have been together for seven wonderful years now and have three beautiful children together. We were happy together up until his ex-girlfriend recently moved back home from furthering her studies.

She is still madly in love with him and wants him back, and she has become a huge pest in our lives. If it's not e-mailing him about how much she loves and misses him, it's calling him all sorts of hours and leaving notes behind in our mailbox about how much they were meant to be together.

I once read one of her notes stating "You know we were meant for each other, just look at how long it took for you to propose to your 'fiancée' and still can't seem to walk down the aisle up to now." I was so angry at her that I spoke to him about it. He called her up the following day with me being his witness and told her to stop harassing his family, but she continued to harass us.

Just a week ago my daughter came home and found a note in the mailbox, read it and was not talking to either of us for a few days. When I confronted her about the situation, she showed me the note that she found and asked me if we were having problems and is papa leaving.

I got so angry that I called the woman and gave her a piece of my mind. A couple of days later she started right back up with the same crap. I have told my fiancé to talk to her again, but he keeps telling me "he does not want to even see a strand of hair from her."

I have just about had it with this woman. To tell you the truth I am really close to confronting her and pounding the s**t out of her so badly that her creator would not even recognize her. The only reason why I have not done that is because of the love for my family.

Queenie, what would you suggest that I do in a situation like this, before it gets out of hand? She just happens to love reading your article religiously and I know she will know that this letter is about her.—Miss Fed Up

Dear Miss Fed Up,

Beating this woman up would just drag you down to her level of behaviour.

She will continue her nonsense as long as you continue to react to it, in hopes that you eventually will split up with the man she wants. I advise you to ignore her and her notes. The best way you can flout her is to live happily in spite of her behaviour.

However, if she keeps it up, you should carefully save every one of her notes, e-mails and other communications and take them to a lawyer or to the police, who can advise you what legal means are available to you to stop this harassment.