Dear Queenie,
My boyfriend and I are planning to get married next year. We have been together for 3 years and he is everything I want in a husband.
The problem is, he has had several other relationships during that time. He has never lied about it, because he knows I think honesty is the most important thing in a relationship.
When I got upset about the other women he promised to be faithful to me and I believe him, because he's always been honest about it when he wasn't. But when I see him looking at another woman I get jealous and start to worry. I have forgiven him but I just can't forget what he has done.
Queenie, how do I get over this insecurity?—Can't forget
Dear Can't forget,
Apparently your boyfriend is everything you want in a husband except faithful, and apparently you didn't make clear to your boyfriend from the start how important fidelity is to you.
Given his history, you may never get over this insecurity. Only you can decide whether you can live with it, or are willing to try. Professional counselling – for both of you – might help.
