Dear Queenie,
I am sitting here looking at the breaking news about Fantasia, the American idol who overdosed after having an affair with a married man. Why do these women do that to themselves, and to other women? Why would you as a woman put another woman through hell by being a third party in a relationship you have no business being in?
As a woman, if a man is married and he wants out, tell him to straighten his business out first. You don't jump in and cause more alienation in someone's marriage. I see that so much in St. Maarten, young girls going boldly after married men to support them. St. Maarten is becoming like Sodom and Gomorrah – people just doing what they want and not caring about the children that are going through hell or the wife that probably invested years in the relationship.
No marriage is without ups and downs, but when you have little sluts running around willing to open their legs in 2 minutes, marriages go down the drain. I am not saying that men are not to be blamed also, but as women we should have a little more pride and consideration for other women. I have seen girls in bars and clubs deliberately go after the guys who they know are married. It is terrible. Absolutely no class and morals.
What legacy are they going to leave behind for their kids? Your daddy is a married man or your mummy is with a married man, so it's okay when you are older to do the same.
I have no respect for anyone who cheats on their partner, or for a woman who goes or is with a married man. I went to this particular restaurant once and someone pointed out that the waitress was living with a married man. I left the restaurant, because I could not risk the chance, that someone like that would serve my children! I used to love going there, but now I don't anymore.
Sometimes I wish, when I hear these horror stories, that all countries had the law that a wife could sue the other woman. I think then a lot of them would think twice before being a third party in one's marriage. Marriage is such a huge investment in itself and we don't need other women out there making it harder.
If I find my that husband is cheating I'll be sure to dump his behind, because he doesn't want me any more, and we can't make it work. I think only cowards and real deceitful people cheat and a cheater will always in my book be a cheater!
Queenie, honestly, what do you think of men who cheat, and the girls (and I say girls, because most times it's with some younger woman) who intentionally go after them, be it for money, car, gifts, jobs, place to stay, whatever.—Tired of living in Sodom and Gomorrah
Dear Tired,
I think, like you, that a woman (or a man, for that matter) who goes after a married man (or woman) has no class or morals, and that a cheater will always be a cheater.
